Jane Ooms — Women's Coaching & Wellbeing
You haven't lost
yourself.
You've just been
holding too much.
Most women trying to feel like themselves again
are looking in the wrong direction.
I help women who've spent so long putting others first reconnect with who they are — and feel free to be themselves again.
Do You Recognise
Yourself in This?
Losing yourself doesn't always look dramatic. Sometimes it looks like being completely capable and reliable — while quietly disappearing in the process.
If this has been building for a while
You keep showing up for everyone else — and slowly losing the thread back to yourself
- You feel constantly overwhelmed and emotionally stretched thin
- You snap at the people you love and then feel guilty about it
- You wake up tired and already thinking about everything you have to carry
- Your life looks full from the outside — but it doesn't feel fulfilling
If you've been pushing through it
You're tired of getting through the day — and wondering when you stopped being a priority
- You feel resentful or frustrated but can't quite name why
- You put yourself last so automatically you barely notice it happening
- You don't recognise yourself anymore — and it scares you quietly
- You want to feel like yourself again — you just don't know where to start
You may have tried to push harder. Do more. Wait for things to ease up.
But it hasn't worked — because this isn't about doing more. It's about coming back to yourself.
Discover What's Really Getting
in the Way of Feeling Like Yourself
5 questions. 2 minutes. A clearer picture of what's been quietly running underneath — and what shifting it could look like.
5 questions. 2 minutes.
A clearer picture of what's underneath.
Most women trying to feel like themselves again are focused on the wrong thing. This assessment helps identify the real pattern underneath the overwhelm.
No right or wrong answers. Choose what feels most honest — even if it's uncomfortable.
You'll receive a personalised result with a clear insight into what's actually getting in the way.
Free — no email required to see your result.
This isn't a stress problem.
It's a self-abandonment pattern.
Over years of putting everyone else first — through caregiving, pressure, conditioning — the habit of abandoning yourself becomes invisible. You stop noticing. And the longer it runs, the harder it becomes to remember who you were before it.
- You give until there's nothing left — then feel guilty for being depleted
- You set boundaries and immediately soften or remove them
- You feel responsible for everyone else's emotional state
- You look outward for permission to rest, slow down, or simply be
"Who am I when I stop holding everything together for everyone else?"
"The woman you're trying to come back to isn't gone. She's been there the whole time — beneath everything you've been conditioned to carry."
- OverwhelmedGrounded
- ReactiveRegulated
- Putting herself lastIncluding herself
- SurvivingLiving
They didn't find a new version
of themselves. They found themselves.
"I came to Jane feeling completely depleted and disconnected. Within a few sessions I started to recognise myself again. For the first time in years I feel like I'm living my life, not just managing it."
S.M.
"I didn't realise how far I'd drifted from myself until Jane helped me see it clearly. The work wasn't about fixing anything — it was about coming home to who I actually am."
A.R.
"Jane has a rare ability to hold space while also helping you see things with absolute clarity. I finished our work together feeling calm, grounded, and genuinely like myself again."
L.T.
Jane — Why I do this work (3 min)
Not fixing what's broken.
Remembering what was never lost.
I've worked with women who, on paper, were holding everything together beautifully — careers, families, relationships, responsibilities. But underneath, they were running on empty and slowly losing the thread back to themselves.
I understand this deeply — because I've lived it too.
There was a period where I was doing all the right things for everyone around me, and quietly losing myself in the process. Not dramatically. Just gradually. The way it happens for so many women who care deeply and give generously.
What I eventually understood changed everything.
It wasn't that I'd broken down. It was that I'd been so focused on holding everything else together that I'd stopped including myself in the picture. The moment I saw that clearly — and began to change it — something profound shifted.
I didn't need to rebuild from scratch. I needed to come back to myself. And that's exactly what I help women do.
The Reconnection Framework
A structured process for returning to yourself — not building a new version, but uncovering the one who was always there.
Recognition
See the pattern clearly
Identify what's been running quietly beneath the surface — the conditioning, the loops, the self-abandonment habits you may not have noticed.
Reconnection
Come back to who you are
Separate who you are from what you've been conditioned to carry. Not who you're supposed to be — who you actually are beneath the pressure.
Regulation
Build inner steadiness
Develop the emotional stability that lets you move through life without being hijacked by stress, guilt, or other people's needs.
Reclamation
Live in a way that's yours
Space, boundaries, and a quiet confidence in yourself that you carry forward — not performed. Remembered.
Three Steps to
Coming Home to Yourself
Take the Free Assessment
Get a clear picture of what's really getting in the way — and what shifting it could look like. Takes 2 minutes.
Book a Free Discovery Call
We look at your specific situation — what you're carrying, where you've drifted from yourself, and what coming back could look like.
Do the Work. Come Home to Yourself.
Through the Reconnection Framework, we work on what's actually underneath — so calm, clarity, and self-trust become natural again.
Frequently Asked
Questions
A process for understanding and releasing the patterns that have been quietly running your life — so you can feel like yourself again, move with more ease, and stop putting yourself last. The goal isn't to build a better version of you. It's to come back to the one who was always there.
Therapy often focuses on exploring the past in depth. This work focuses on seeing clearly what's running now — and shifting it. Practical, present-focused, and integrated with body-based approaches from my training in yoga and the Biology of Trauma.
Most approaches add strategies on top of the problem. This work goes underneath. If the root pattern of self-abandonment isn't seen and addressed, the overwhelm keeps returning. That's what makes this work different — and lasting.
Many women notice real shifts in how they feel within the first few sessions. Lasting change comes from integration — living what's uncovered over time. The relief, for many, begins earlier than they expect.
Yes. All sessions are delivered online. This makes it easy to fit into your life — wherever you are in Australia.
Women looking for quick fixes or surface-level strategies. This is for women who are ready to do honest, gentle work — and come back to who they actually are.
Ready to Come Back
to Yourself?
If you're done feeling stretched, depleted, and disconnected — and ready to feel grounded, clear, and like yourself again — this work will help you get there.
Online · No obligation · 45 minutes